Chivalry isn’t dead.
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Serious topic and serious question… Where have all the good guys gone? My brothers and I can’t be the only ones left. Where did chivalry go? It was how I was raised so I feel like it’s in my blood but as I’ve learned, at some point along the way it got grossly manipulated. I’ve done my research and A LOT of people believe chivalry is sexist. They believe that it’s catering to women. Contrary to that unfortunate popular belief… chivalry was and is STILL a good thing. 

Dating back to medieval times, the definition of chivalry is ‘the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, especially courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and readiness to help.’ Guys, I get that you want to seem like a hard ass to your boys but at the end of the day (whispers) are you trying to spend the rest of your life with your boys? If so, I don’t judge. Feel free to continue being an ass while chasing random girls who are searching for a ‘bad boy’ because they have deep-rooted daddy issues. Have fun with that. For those of you that maybe didn’t know where to look and just generally want to be a better human being… keep on reading. 

There are countless ways I could share but honestly, I feel like anything more than 5 should be an article as opposed to a video list. So yea, some of these are general while some are for relationships but here are 5 things you can do to bring chivalry back.


1. Speak with respect. Communication is important in ANY relationship. I question the longevity of any relationship that holds ‘damn you got a fat ass’ as a legitimate term of endearment 

2. Consider life and general interactions as all-inclusive. You’ll pay money for it on vacation for you; in life you’re kind of paying for it with your reputation soooo yea. Don’t be afraid to open a door or give a girl your jacket if she’s cold. I mean I’d hope you’d give your jacket to your mom or sister. Help an elderly person cross the street or help someone grab something out of reach at the grocery store. Doesn’t make you a boy scout, it means you have a soul. 

3. Contain yourself when it comes to social media. There’s a difference between having informed discussions and degrading, bullying and generally spewing hate. ALSO . . . PLEASE STEP AWAY FROM THE DM. DO-NOT slide into every attractive person’s inbox. Save yourself the embarrassment, she’s probably screen-shotting your dick picks and laughing about it over a glass of wine with her friends and He’s 100% showing his boys the ass shots (sips drink).

4. Care about your appearance. You’d be surprised how much respect you’ll get when you at least seem like you care about how you look. FIND YOUR OWN STYLE. You may not have the body of a male model or resources to jump off the pages of GQ but that doesn’t give you a pass to look like you don’t have any home training. If all else fails, black jeans and a fitted black or white tee. You’re welcome. Stop with the hover boards. Chill out with the Vape Pens. I feel like I still see people sagging from time to time. If you’re sagging, please blow a cloud of vape smoke and hover your ass into traffic. Don’t die, just kinda get messed up so you can realize the error in your ways. (Sip)

5. Last but not lease LISTEN. This means in face-to-face conversation but also in what people post on their social media. It’s quite possibly the easiest of these suggestions. Shut up, keep your opinion to yourself for once, and quietly receive a different perspective. Listening is sexy, trust me. About 94% of my friends are really hot model girls.


But that’s it for me. Hope yall learned something. Please Like my page on FB for posts and follow me @SomeDailyJoe on Instagram for all the photo ops.
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​Selfies today have a predominately bad reputation. NON-scientifically linked to extreme narcissism, mental illness and perpetuated by the over use by certain celebrities everybody loves to hate. I’m not going to defend the Kardashian/Jenner clan because their bank accounts speak for themselves so I’m just going to b-line back to the main topic. We often fail to remember that we’ve been taking selfies since the age of the disposable camera. The only differences between then and now are that we can produce and edit the fuck out of them at an unfathomable rate.

I want to first address the guys. There have been countless memes indicating that males who take selfies are somehow emasculated. I’m not going to say that this is ridiculously stupid and also sexist but I will say that if you take life advice from a meme affixed to some misogynistic photo… maybe you shouldn’t be taking selfies or photos in general or even exist for that matter. Selfies are not a male or a female thing. STFU and cut that shit out.

When I take a deeper look into the idea of selfies I do so from two sides of the same coin. In each topic, I believe we should look at both why people would adopt and why people would oppose… even if it’s brief, it’s only fair. I’m no psychology major nor will I ever claim to be but I think a lot of this topic circles around self-image/ confidence. Shut up. I know that seems like common sense because we are in fact talking about selfies but let me get my thoughts out before you promote me to Captain Obvious.

I think the anti-selfie people at some point have or are still struggling with insecurities. This may come off as a generalizing and bold statement but to me it feels like the only logical reason. Why else would one actively go out of his or her way to negatively dissect a photo someone felt proud of? The list of possible insecurities is endless; physical insecurities, levels of confidence, all around jealousy… we all have felt some type of way about ourselves so I don’t particularly feel a need to focus on this. I really don’t fuck with negativity.
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To all the proud, confident, not needing anybody else’s approval, no fucks given selfie takers… I salute you. We are a slowly growing breed as our generation continues to progress and make strides to encourage and uplift each other (a huge aim for @SomeDailyJoe) so I feel like we’ll be massive numbers in no time. I feel like a selfie says ‘I’m killin the game’, ‘Slay’, ‘I’m feelin myself’… need I continue? You are comfortable with the image you are putting out in the world and that’s amazing. Nobody ever says ‘I look like shit in this, let me post it’. With that said I’m assuming you don’t hella facetume yourself creating a completely new person that doesn’t exist only prompting unwarranted attention and meetings under false pretences, leaving you feeling like you’re unlovable. That’s never good. Owning who you are is something every person strives for in their life whether they want to admit it or not and as trivial as it may seem, posting a dope ass selfie is an easy way to metaphorically shout it from the rooftops. On a lighter note, no pun intended, understanding the necessity of and the art in finding that perfect lighting is a skill. BE PROUD OF THAT SHIT.

Some of my favorite people have embraced the selfie and they are some of the best people I’ve been lucky to have in my life. They are positive and uplifting, encouraging and supportive, achieving goals and are generally really fuckin happy.

Long story short: posting selfies=higher levels of confidence in oneself. No science in that, it’s just my opinion. If you’re feelin yourself, post up. #Flawless
Here are some of my friends that have embraced the Selfie. Go creep them on IG and keep up with all the photo ops on @SomeDailyJoe

Until next time, cheers to you!

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